A relationship goes through numerous phases during its life cycle. It's normal to experience a few rough patches. The strength of a relationship is reflected in how couples deal with emergent changes. Couples tend to continue to defend their individual positions, misunderstand each other and escalate the problem at hand. At this point, the conflict becomes destructive and either the couple part or seek a professional.
Sex therapy focuses on sexual concerns such as erectile dysfunction, difficult reaching orgasm, pain during sex, or low libido and sexual desire. Many of these complications arise due to medical reasons - medications, hormonal changes, drugs, alcohol abuse, diabetes, heart disease, and obesity. Other reasons include performance anxiety, depression, sexual trauma, or misinformation, lack of sex education, or issues in the relationship.
Similarly to regular psychotherapy, sex therapy consists of talk therapy, mindfulness, and tools to enhance your intimacy as a couple. There may be questionnaires, exercises to complete at home alone or with your partner(s), as well as education to help you become better informed about your body and healthy sexual functioning.
Just as people have their own unique fingerprint, your sexual expression is just as personal. Your intentions and motivations may be to connect deeply to someone you love, have a peak sensual experience, feel a sense of validation, or as a means of creative self-expression.
As a certified couples counselor and sex therapist from UCLA, I have the experience and know-how to ask difficult questions and provide a safe atmosphere so that you can co-create and define your relationship(s), marriage, separation, and/or divorce.
I encourage you to learn more about your personal erotism, in fantasy and in real life. Exploring your sexual blueprint helps to maximize your experience of healthy sex.