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Perfection is an Illusion

“For just one second, look at your life and see how perfect it is. Stop looking for the next secret door that is going to lead you to your real life. Stop waiting. This is it: there’s nothing else. It’s here, and you’d better decide to enjoy it or you’re going to be miserable wherever you go, for the rest of your life, forever.” ~ Lev Grossman

When we buy into our drive for perfection, we forget our truth and start believing the endless messages that tell us who, what and how we are suppose to be.


The voice that says, “No thank you” has the power to restore harmony and stop suffering in its tracks. It’s an inspiring form of self-love and reparenting the hurt inner child that is available with practice and soon can instantly nurture and restore the love within.
As a loving parent or well-intentioned friend, all our parts are welcome and intentional advice are apart of us. That doesn’t mean we have to listen to them.
Another drawback to perfection is the loneliness that it instills. The time and energy dedicated to fulfilling an endless proficiency is a long and lonely venture. It is self-destructive just like any “ism” or addiction — workaholism, alcoholism, drug addiction, love addiction…name your poison. It is a way to cope that suppresses the deep hurt, sadness, and untended wounds festering our insides. There is a better way. You can be your own loving parent, good friend, and lover with lovingkindness spoken from the heart. Stop allowing perfection to distract from the pain within and heal it with your own love.

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