A friend of mine told me, “Go to the sex shop that you mentioned in Hollywood and get a strap on.” “What, why? I responded.
He replied, “I was at a bar in Berlin and this woman sat down next to me and we started talking. Later she showed me the strap-on cock she was wearing and told me it made her feel powerful.”
That was an attention grabber; certainly not your typical bar conversation. I then speculated my own sense of power. Am I lacking in my true power potential? Aren’t there other ways to feel powerful? Why a strap-on? Doesn’t that demean the power of my own femininity?
As I contemplated the subject of women and power more, I thought, “Women are just as powerful if not more so than men. I don’t need to act like a man to feel powerful.
It then angered and saddened me to think society, even in the mid 21st century that male culture remains dominant. Do women even know of their true power?
From Dr. Walter Bracklemann’s Sex Therapy class at the University of California Los Angeles (UCLA), I’ve learned the human anatomy is more homologous than different. In other words, men and women are more alike than we realize.
Sensory Nerve Endings
Women are certainly more powerful in the bedroom. When it comes to female sexuality, women can have eleven different types of orgasms versus men who can only have nine. The clitoris has double the amount of sensory nerve endings versus the penis; 8,000 to 4,000 respectively.
Similar Body Structures
We all start off as generic embryos with the same genital structures. It is not until week eight that hormones begin to develop and differentiate visual distinctions. Male and female body parts form from similar surfaces.
The Genital Tubercle
The homogeneous genital tubercle in the embryo begins development from the same shape. The shaft of the clitoris is the same as the shaft of the penis and the glans of the clitoris is the same as the head of the penis. They both look and function the same but as with all genders, come in different sizes.
The protruding bud enlarges in males due to the presence of the hormone dihydrotestosterone (DHT) and because of the DNA-binding protein, testis-determining factor (TDF), which is only codified on the Y chromosome.
The bulbs of the clitoris are posterior to the Labia minora and run along each side of the vestibule and urethra. The bulb of the corpus cavernosum is a slight enlargement at the base of the penis that is homologous to the bulbs of the clitoris.
The perineal raphe is a visible line found in both females and males. In females, the line appears between the anus and the vulva. In males the line or ridge forms from the fusion of the penis and scrotum. It is visible from the anus, up the midline of the scrotum, and along the shaft of the penis.
The gonads, otherwise known as the reproductive organs either develop into ovaries or testicles.
Most people, regardless of gender have nipples. Some are more sensitive to touch and can reach orgasm with the right kind of sensate focus. The only distinction between male and female nipples is post-pregnancy milk-producing hormones; oxytocin and prolactin.
Women and men have similarities beyond the genitals. Our brains are quite the same contrary to cultural biases. There is the slight variation in size but size does not equate to brain function. Relatedly, size does not matter in the bedroom either.
There is certainly a large variation of brain function, neurological structure, and reaction to different stimuli across human species, but the differences are across individuals not necessarily gender.
Math and Science Abilities
For instance, women are just as good if not better than men when it comes to math and science. Studies have shown that segregated classes where girls are taught math and science in one room and boys are taught the same courses in another, test scores reveal congruent results. It is mostly social and cultural messages related to girls that diminish their confidence in their math and science abilities.
Certainly women and men have variations in hormone levels and patterns but ultimately there is no such thing as “female” or “male” hormones. We have the same hormones just at varying levels and during different stages of life.
Recent studies support gender differences are an old social and cultural myth to diminish and stereotype girls in believing that are less than men. The truth of the matter is that females and males have more similarities than differences. It begins in the embryo with common anatomy, then in our cognitive functioning, and even in our hormones. Women don’t have to wear a strap-on to feel powerful. Power comes from within. It’s time to stop gender stereotyping and embracing feminine power.